February 2018 Newsletter
Hello, and a fine February to you!
Is resentment sapping your energy?
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Today's issue has an article about resentment, and how it often
hurts us more than those we resent.
In my corporate job years ago, one of the managers
was a fierce woman who used to regularly frighten many of
us. In addition to yelling at folks, she would stomp around
when she wasn't satisfied with some situation, glaring at
anyone who got in her way. She was like a simmering pot on
the stove, about to boil over at any moment, and no one
wanted to engage with her and step into the line of fire.
With some distance, I can see now that she put on this dragon suit
to get things done, and so she'd be respected in that male culture.
When she left the area, she casually mentioned to me that maybe we
could work together on some project in the future. This was the
last thing I wanted! Give me a work partner who is cheerful, not
angry and ready to go to battle. While she seemed to get some
satisfaction from scaring people and "making a name for herself",
she also didn't seem truly happy to me. I believe she carried a
burden of deep resentment around with her at all times, which sat
on her shoulders and weighed her down.
Resenting a situation is equally unhelpful. Are you harming the Weather Gods
at all when you're full of resentment about a rainstorm at your long-planned
outdoor gathering, or a snowstorm which causes your flight to be
canceled? No -- you're only hurting yourself. And if you're occupied with
thoughts of revenge or harboring deep annoyance about a situation you can't
change, your wiser creative self isn't available to look for
solutions, or to mine the gold from the experience.
Variations on the Nelson Mandela quote to the left have been
attributed to others, that resenting someone does more damage
to us than to the person we resent. They may not even be aware
of our feelings, or be dead! At some level we understand that
resentment is what my energy teacher calls a lower-vibrational
emotion. It's not productive or uplifting, and squanders our
precious life force without giving us anything useful in return.
A friend recently reminded me that when faced with an
upsetting situation, it's helpful to ask "Can I do anything
about this?". If so, moving to Plan B (which may have only been
created a minute ago) is a better use of your time and energy
than going into resentment, or a Poor Me attitude. If nothing
can be done, acceptance is your best bet, especially for your
nervous system. Getting upset about something that will not change
is a sure way to hurt yourself emotionally, and maybe even physically.
Those inspiring stories of overcoming adversity, recovering from
a "terminal" illness, or rising out of abject poverty to succeed
when everything seemed hopeless, then going on to help others,
are not told about people who stayed stuck in resentment. Bad
and unfair things happen to most of us. We can't always choose
our circumstances, yet we can choose how we respond. One of the
most telling characteristics about someone is how he or she
deals with change. I want to be flexible, not stuck in my old
rigid or fearful ways of reacting. Life is not meant to be stagnation
and resistance, but rather growth and change. That's my goal.
I invite you to make it yours too.
To read about how I resented my early vision difficulties, and finally shifted
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Enjoy the beginning of your February.
I'll write again in a few weeks. Take care!