July 2020 Newsletter
Hello, and a magical jubilant July to you!
Are you embracing your experience or resisting it?
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Today's issue is about embracing your experience.
Years ago in my computer programming job, I had a sign over my desk saying "Accept it, don't
fight it". There was a lot about the corporate culture I didn't like, and this was a
reminder to me not to waste my energy trying to change what I couldn't. Since I was very
young, I have been more comfortable with books and the printed page (or screen) than with
other people, who often seem pushy and overwhelming. The way words convey meaning fascinated
me, and I wanted to read everything I could get my hands on. At the time practically
the only experience I let myself fully sink into was the written one.
So yes, I was embracing part of my experience, and benefiting greatly from that focus, especially academically.
Yet much of my time with people, particularly in group settings, was spent in "getting through it" until I could be
comfortably alone again. I wouldn't have said I was angry, though my energy was fighting back, in
"accept it or fight it" terms. I was withdrawing myself from the experience,
resisting taking part in it and being involved.
According to the wise Dalai Lama, by following this pattern I was rejecting Life. ACK!
Why would I ever want to do that? Some of it was habit, my naturally cautious nature.
Some of it was not feeling safe around others, or expecting not to feel safe, so never
giving the new experience a chance. This reminds me of the vision clients who say they can't
see well, then it turns out they're not really looking at what's in front of them!
If you don't look, you won't see much. Similarly, an experience needs to be met and faced, at least
partly, to get any benefit or enjoyment from it. I think this is behind the Dalai Lama's words,
that to move away can be an unhelpful focus, keeping your attention on the "bad" (in your opinion). I'm asking myself more
often now what I want to move toward, even if that movement is slow, little by little, since I do want
to embrace my life.
Shakespeare wrote "Nothing is either good or bad, but thinking makes it so". Wayne Dyer wrote "When
you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change". I heard a talk by a healer recently
who emphasized the positive or negative impact of the way we speak to ourselves, suggesting
someone call "stage fright" something different, like "stage excitement"! Hearing this, I could feel
my energy lift. Our attitude has a great deal to do with how "good" an event feels
Dr. Bates. the pioneer of natural vision improvement, discovered that the "same" view could be
blurry or clear, depending on your feelings about it. Maybe your beloved child's face is rich in detail,
while your angry argumentative neighbor, whom you don't really want to look at, appears harder to see clearly.
There's no scientific reason for this, since we are not machines who just need to be re-calibrated to
function optimally. If you expect to enjoy something, your energy reaches out toward it, visual
energy included. Why not embrace your reality, and let it help you grow?
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Enjoy the start of this juicy month of July.
I'll write again in a few weeks. Take care!