March 2020 Newsletter
Hello, and a magnificent March to you!
Structure and freedom
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter.
Today's issue is about structure and freedom.
Some of us prefer a well-organized structured environment, while others would rather
deal with situations as they arise, not having much of a plan. You might feel having a plan
gives you focus, or that it traps you. The man rushing around the hamster wheel isn't having much
fun, perhaps trying to meet a deadline someone else imposed. If we chose the plan
or helped develop it, we're less likely to resist it than if it's someone else's plan.
Where do you think you fit on the structure/freedom continuum? Are you too
structured, or maybe not structured enough? I've been told to "lighten up"
many times over the years by well-meaning friends, who thought I wasn't
having enough fun because I paid too much attention to the little details.
A work buddy told me in my 20s "I'll bet you never run out of toilet paper!", as
she described taking her last remaining roll from one bathroom to the other,
until she could get to the store. This wouldn't work for me. I'd feel like I
was getting an F in Being Organized!
What makes you feel comfortable is the right choice for you, not what your friends
or relatives want for you. I start getting nervous if there are too many incomplete
tasks pulling at me, whether this be unpaid bills or important unanswered emails or
household maintenance. Other folks might not be bothered by these "loose ends" at all, feeling fine
about leaving the house with a sink containing dirty dishes. To each his (or her) own.
Balance is the key, a time for work and a time for play, as it says in Ecclesiastes. If
I'm staying awake at night worrying about what I haven't done, that's not healthy. And
if someone else is over-spending to soothe feelings about too much debt, that's not healthy
either. If you like to have a structured approach, you may want to schedule specific time
for leisure or play, rather than just hoping it happens. Similarly, someone else who is a
"go with the flow" personality may want to schedule one day a week or every other week to sit
down and look over the bills, rather than letting them pile up unattended.
Like the man in the picture to the left, who is creating a staircase so he can climb higher, to a large
extent our life is created by us, and by our daily habits. Yes, unexpected problems and
accidents happen to everyone, and we often have more control over our fate than we realize.
I think we're here to learn, to be happy, and to help each other. If it seems like there's too
much structure in your life, or too little, you can usually do something about that.
Even while away on vacation, you'll want some structure, maybe familiar mealtimes and a
regular sleep schedule, or you may have a hard time returning to your normal routine when
you get back home. The body likes routine, as do children -- it's healthy and comfortable.
Yet too much of the "same old same old" can be boring, if not stifling. The freedom of deviating
from a well-known pattern can be exciting, partly because it is an exception. We need
structure, and we need freedom, and only you can design the combination of these
which suits your life best, and brings you satisfaction.
To read about practices for improving your vision which aren't
as rigidly structured as gym exercises,
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Enjoy the start of this merry month of March.
I'll write again in a few weeks. Take care!