May 2019 Newsletter
Hello, and a magnificent May to you!
Are you a secret introvert?
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter.
Today's issue is about introverts, and how we can understand and appreciate them more.
As an introvert, I've been considered anti-social because I
don't like crowded noisy gatherings, much preferring quiet
time with one or 2 friends, or to be alone with a book. In
this extroverted culture where most people seem to want to
be flashy and to outshine others, I have often felt like I don't
fit, and wondered if something was wrong with me.
An extrovert is energized by being around others, and uncomfortable if
he or she is alone for too long. An introvert, on the other hand,
recharges his or her personal battery in solitude, and can feel the
energy draining away when there's too much non-stop conversation,
too many people talking at once, or other unpleasant intrusive
noises or smells. What seems exciting and stimulating to an
extrovert can be a hell of overwhelm for an introvert. No wonder
these two personality types often don't understand each other!
The extrovert/introvert spectrum is just that, a range with most
of us falling somewhere in the middle. There are monks who live
alone in caves, and hermits who rarely see another soul, who are
farther to the Extreme Introvert end of the spectrum than I am.
And the same person may be an extrovert in one situation, say as a
loud demanding boss at work, and more of an introvert in another,
perhaps at home with a bossy spouse! Each one of us has many facets.
After too many years spending the majority of my time alone, communicating mostly with
computers or books, I began to want more human company. It surprised me how many
people I found who spent their free time at events which had no interest for me,
indoors at a (too loud) movie on a beautiful sunny day, or at a sports event
where fights often broke out. This was not my cup of tea! I eventually found a
group of dreamers I studied with for years, then energy medicine students,
then others who were improving their eyesight. Even though I still seemed
more introverted than most of these folks, they accepted me, which felt great.
It's been key to accepting myself as an introvert, and allowing me to
function as part of a group, to give myself the Alone Time I need, without
apology. If I spend hours in a meeting with you, then decide I don't want
to eat dinner together too, please don't take it as a personal rejection!
I may love being with you, and maintaining my personal energy stores
has to come first. Remember, I recharge my battery when I'm alone. I worry about
introverted children whose extroverted parents are always urging them to join groups
or go to parties, because that's what the parents enjoy.
When I first started to go away to dream or energy workshops, I quickly found
that extroverted roommates did not work for me all. While they may have been
lovely people, they always seemed to want chit-chat when I wanted peace and calm.
I now know they were trying to recharge their batteries too -- it's just that what
they did drained mine. We all have something to offer, whether it's in a quiet
way or a loud and showy one. So please appreciate your unique self, and your neighbor
or relative with that very different style than yours, and let yourself be seen.
The world needs what only you have to give us.
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Enjoy the start of your May.
I'll write again in a couple of weeks. Take care!