May 2025 Newsletter

Hello, and a meteoric May to you!
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter. Today's issue is about seeing better leading to greater calm. Enjoy!

For most of my life I've been highly nearsighted, and also very anxious. I masked the anxiety well, or tried to, by being super-productive and a top student. It took me a long time to recognize the connection between my hyped-up nervous system and my myopia. It was only when I started natural vision improvement, long after I left school and was most of the way through my corporate career as a computer programmer, that I could notice the clear relationship between how I felt emotionally and how I saw.

A key roadblock both to improving my eyesight and to feeling calmer was that I was so chronically nervous, I thought that was normal. I pushed myself relentlessly to do more and more, never feeling like I was good enough. Vision improvement stopped this striving pattern in its tracks, since my eyesight was so imperfect. However it was upsetting and humbling to face this fact, and fully accept it in the beginning, when I still wanted to see myself as excellent, not an unskilled novice.

My time in classrooms, first as a student and later as a teacher, had reinforced my belief that I was smart and could learn easily. It was painful to admit that figuring out how to improve my abysmally poor eyesight was one of the most difficult, frustrating tasks I had ever undertaken. I could debug a hex core dump, back when our program output was one of those stacks of folded computer paper, or push my skinny body in the gym enough to gain the respect of the big muscle-bound guys. Yet truly believing I could improve my strong myopia seemed like a pipe dream.

As I dug deeper into studying and learning about vision improvement, determined to master this mysterious (to me) discipline, it dawned on me that I was merely thinking about the easy natural practices, going over them in my mind, not actually doing them. Even though most of vision happens in the brain, not in the eyeballs, my path forward led me out of my head and into my body. I concentrated on simple actions to feel more centered and stable, taking the leap of faith that closed-eye activities like palming would still help me see better, even if I wasn't looking while I did them.

These practices to release tension from my body and mind helped me realize how wound-up I'd been most of my life, which I had just assumed was normal since it's all I knew. It had always surprised me how other people seemed to take upsetting events in stride. Didn't they care as much as I did? Or were they just wired to be more flexible and resilient? Everyone has problems and challenges, which is how we learn and grow and hone our skills. I focused on my ability to learn, and my memory of overcoming obstacles in my past, to know I could do this too. I didn't have to be the best or do it perfectly, I just had to trust I could deal with what was facing me.

A key insight recently is that I need time alone more than most. Yes I'm strongly introverted, which doesn't mean I'm anti-social. I am comfortable interacting, as long as I get enough time by myself. Being with others, especially in groups, drains my battery, while I'm replenished and recharged when alone. I've always known this, but others haven't always accepted it, making me feel wrong and flawed. The blurry vision was a convenient target for my different-ness, when that was just a symptom of how uneasy I was. If I fully accept myself, I'll exhale and relax, continue to improve my eyesight and calm my nervous system, then be able to be with others in my own way. How are you rejecting who you really are? It's a truism that "it takes all kinds", and we need your gifts as much as anyone's. Please don't hide your light.

For an article on trying harder than is necessary, and so sabotaging your continuing progress, click here.

Upcoming EFT series with a master teacher
My skilled insightful EFT teacher Dr. Carol Look will be offering a 6-session series shortly, Yes To Abundance. I can't recommend Carol's work highly enough. Note that your own abundance challenge may be financial, or with health, relationships, or in some other area. Our first activation session is on Monday May 19th at 2PM Eastern. You can check out all the details here.

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Let me know what you've wondered about concerning energy medicine or vision or dreams. I'll be glad to write a short article addressing that topic. Thank you to those who have sent me questions, or see a question you asked me in a private session written about here. You're helping many other people! Enjoy the start of this mind-blowing month of May. I'll write again in a few weeks. Take care!