Mid-August 2020 Newsletter
Hello, and a magical alluring Mid-August to you!
Where do you get your confidence?
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter.
Today's issue is about confidence.
You may have encountered someone who seems to have a naturally confident air, an ease
about who he or she is, and wondered how that developed. Was the person born with it,
or are they just lucky? It's not false and puffed-up like this guy
admiring his reflection -- it's genuine.
As we grow, we make mistakes and we have successes. If there's too much focus on our "mistakes" (which
could just be a way to do something the teacher or parent didn't expect), we may start to doubt
ourselves. Harsh words from an authority figure can add to self-doubt, as we internalize those
words, then start saying them to ourself.
Whenever I hear a friend say something like "I'm so stupid!", I cringe, and
gently correct her. I wonder who said this to her a long time ago, until she
started believing it. She is programming herself for more unwanted results, feeding
that cycle of not feeling good about herself.
The opposite of this, praising yourself for a job well done, even if it's small, is a good habit to
start developing. Think of a parent praising a child for tying his shoes, or doing well in a game
or on a test at school. When the child doesn't do so well, let's hope the parent is kind and supportive,
telling the child she'll do better next time, and she's still a good kid.
Using the kind of self-talk a loving parent would is a natural confidence pill. Unfortunately, I
don't think any such pill comes in a bottle. What also helps is remembering people who believed in
you, perhaps family or teachers who have encouraged you in the past. Maybe someone supported your
efforts when they were alive, and you can now visualize them as your personal cheerleader from Above.
You have more folks rooting for you than you realize.
Finally, be sure to congratulate yourself for your small successes, even if today that's just getting
that dreaded and long-postponed chore completed. Good for you! Don't wait until you climb a mountain
to feel good about yourself. That mountain is climbed step by step, and every step is a small victory
over inertia and inaction. Celebrate yourself, and your one-of-a-kind accomplishments. You're doing great!
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Enjoy the second half of this amazing month of August.
I'll write again in a few weeks. Take care!