Mid-February 2019 Newsletter
Hello, and a mighty favorable Mid-February to you!
How is your self-care?
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter.
Today's issue is about self-care, from a different viewpoint than
you might expect.
Many people think of "self-care" as self-indulgence, giving
themselves a treat, like getting a massage or manicure or going
out for a fancy dinner. Or perhaps physical self-care comes
to mind, getting enough restful sleep or nutritious food or
regular exercise. Have you ever thought about emotional
Emotions can often be dismissed, if to pay attention to them would
be inconvenient. Think of a well-meaning parent urging a child
not to be sad, for example. This kind of training can lead
a sensitive youngster to ignore her own sadness as an adult, or suppress
it with an unhealthy behavior like over-indulging in sweets.
Or perhaps your fear or your anger was minimized, or even ridiculed
when you were younger, instead of supported with comfort and
Spiritual teachers say the first step to making peace with uncomfortable
emotions is to recognize them. Acknowledge that you feel insecure,
or jealous, or furious, or threatened. You may not want to tell
anyone else (except maybe a very close friend or your journal),
but not being honest about your feelings to yourself is asking for
trouble. Those unexpressed emotions will stay in your body, and could
eventually make you sick.
Once you know clearly how you feel, you can decide what to do about it.
This might be nothing more than laughing gently at yourself for being human
and fallible. Or maybe a conversation is in order, or even an apology. Most
of us are doing the very best we can, and any day we don't make a huge mistake
is a good day!
Thinking more about emotional self-care, your "need" to reach for that
sweet treat, or to buy that expensive outfit (or car), or to ingest that toxic substance,
may be to avoid an uncomfortable feeling. Even if you can't name the
feeling yet, beyond just a vague "restless" or "bored", could you find
a less self-destructive method of coping? If you can look ahead a bit,
and you see you'll regret this behavior, are you sure you really want to do it?
Socrates said the unexamined life isn't worth living. Please don't go
through your precious life on auto-pilot. Pay attention to your feelings,
which make up your intuitive guidance system. Call on your guardian angel or fairy
godmother or a friend for support, if you need to be heard. Especially
if your feelings were ignored when you were growing up by your busy parents,
give them air time now. Emotions are the juice of Life, the spices which make
every experience sweeter, or more savory, or pungent. Who wants bland?
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Enjoy the rest of your February.
I'll write again in a couple of weeks. Take care!