Mid-February 2021 Newsletter

Hello, and a magical far-out Mid-February to you!
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter. Today's issue is about dealing with feelings we'd rather avoid. Enjoy!

Obviously some feelings feel a lot better than others. What's your favorite emotion, peace? Excitement? Tenderness? I doubt if it's anger or lethargy or nervousness. So what do you do when your buttons are pushed, so to speak, and you're feeling something you'd rather not? Or maybe when you're just "touchy", or having a bad day?

The first step for me is identifying clearly how I feel. Trust me, I'm going somewhere useful with this. I know our initial knee-jerk reaction is often to lash out and blame someone else, attacking them with our words about what they did to hurt or trigger us. OK, let's stop there. Say you feel slighted when you reached out for some attention. Could you express this calmly, with no blame?

If you own how you really feel, not pretending you're fine when you're not, you're already more in charge of yourself than if you give all your power away to someone else. If you're grieving a loss, or a person or pet or job or way of life, find the time and space and maybe a supportive friend to help you soothe those sad feelings.

For most of my younger life I was anxious to the point of panic, regularly. I can so relate to the poor guy in the image above! Yet there was work to be done, money to be earned to pay my bills. There was no time to coddle myself and worry about my emotions, I just had to get on with Life and function. I was a great performer, over-exercising to make myself "tough" (which of course never worked), spending way too much time at my computer job because then I was spared from interacting with other people.

"Fake it until you make it" can work to an extent, like acting more cheerful than you are on a gloomy day, which often helps your low mood start to lift. On the other hand denial of what's really going on with you, especially for a long period of time, can be destructive to your mental and physical health. Not dealing with something serious usually just allows it to get worse.

To sum up, what works for me is to be honest with myself about how I feel, especially if it's uncomfortable, being the observer of myself. Is it anxiety, or fatigue when I want to keep going, or discouragement, or feeling overwhelmed, or anger? Then I decide what action I need to take, whether it's communicate about the situation with another person, or do something differently with my time and energy. The more I pay attention to my real feelings and honor what they are telling me, the happier and richer my life becomes.

For an article on the relationship between feelings and vision, click here.

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Let me know what you've wondered about concerning energy medicine or vision or dreams. I'll be glad to write a short article addressing that topic. Thank you to those who have sent me questions, or see a question you asked me in a private session written about here. You're helping many other people! Enjoy the remainder of this fine month of February. I'll write again in a few weeks. Take care!