Mid-July 2020 Newsletter
Hello, and a marvelous joyous Mid-July to you!
Which came first, the thought or the feeling?
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter.
Today's issue is about thoughts and feelings.
Shakespeare wrote "Nothing is right or wrong, but thinking makes it so". This is confusing to
those of us with strongly held beliefs. You can find highly principled people on either side
of most controversial issues. Aren't some behaviors, like intentional cruelty, just plain wrong?
My years as a vision teacher, and examining my own life and patterns, have shown me repeatedly that appearances
can be deceiving. What looks mean or harmful could actually be helping. You may see someone shoving another forcefully
in the street and be appalled at the violence of it. Then you realize this was done to save the person from being
run over by an oncoming vehicle!
Let's return to the Shakespeare quote: consider some life event which felt negative at the time, be it a job loss, or
an injury, or a relationship breakup. Back then, you were hurt or resentful or frightened, thinking it was the
worst thing that ever happened to you. Now with some perspective and distance, you see how much you grew from
that experience. The event didn't change, your thinking about it did.
It's easier for most of us to choose to think about something specific, then to choose how to feel. Feelings can seem
to arise on their own, sometimes with no obvious cause. Rather than letting the sadness or anger overtake
you, can you be The Observer? "Oh, look, I'm falling into that old self-critical pattern again", you might think.
One of my teachers speaks a lot about dealing responsibly and self-lovingly with our emotions. She's guided me
to take a breath and say "Isn't that interesting?" rather than immediately getting upset when something happens
to pull me off-center. No, I haven't managed yet to do this every single time, but it feels so much better when
I can pause, then choose what to think, and what to do, if anything.
When a strong feeling arises suddenly, let's say grief, it might not even be your own feeling. Maybe something
reminded you of your close friend, whose husband just died. So send her love, and continue with your happy life,
telling yourself you'll give her a call when you have a chance. Both feelings and thoughts can bring us useful
information, and also sometimes entertainment. Appreciate all the cognitive and emotional sensations coming
your way, and how each is enriching your life.
To read about what feelings have to do with seeing,
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Enjoy the second half of this jubilant month of July.
I'll write again in a few weeks. Take care!