Mid-May 2020 Newsletter
Hello, and a magnificent Mid-May to you!
Are you trying too hard?
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter.
Today's issue is about trying too hard.
When you have a big task in front of you, whether it's a physical effort like pushing
a boulder up a mountain, or something mentally or emotionally taxing, do you throw your
total energy into it like your survival is at stake? Then you might strain a muscle, or become
so exhausted or overwhelmed, you can't do much at all.
With the current unusual coronavirus situation, the way trying too hard is showing up for
me is in trying to do everything at once. I've worked from home with my own business since
I left my corporate job over 10 years ago, so juggling my writing and on-line clients and meetings
with the household responsibilities (which can seem never-ending!) isn't new for me. Yet the
demands to interact, and to show up for friends and colleagues on-line, have increased significantly.
As a child I felt overloaded with chores, my mother assigning me more tasks before I had
finished the ones she had given me earlier. So this is playing into a familiar dynamic
for me, and I can fall into the trap of blaming myself for being inadequate when I can't meet
all the requests coming at me. In my former corporate job I definitely let managers give me too
much work without pushing back, then worked nights and weekends just to keep from falling behind.
It took me way too long to understand that how I spend my time now is my own choice. To return to the theme
of trying too hard, if I choose to do some task, it feels much less like an effort than if I think I
have to do it. The Confidence Pills picture makes me smile -- as if it were that easy! Yet when
my actions feel like my own choice, I have confidence in myself that I'll get the necessary things completed,
and will have a sense of satisfaction when I do.
How you talk to yourself matters. Feel the difference between "My boss is making me do X" or "I really
don't want to do X but I guess I should", and "I've cleared my schedule to focus on X so I can do a good job".
Even unpleasant tasks can be satisfying if you approach them willingly, focusing on the good feeling
you'll have when you're finished. It's not a strain if you truly want to do it, even if it's only to get
it over with!
If you have too much to do, are you trying to do too much? See if getting help is possible, delegating part of your workload.
Examine whether you're filling your schedule too full in fear of "missing something". Don't forget to leave time to
do nothing! When you exercise with weights, it's during the rest periods between workouts that the muscles grow back stronger.
Similarly, you need down time to integrate any learning, and you need dreaming or free-form imagination time just as much as you need
focused study. And as Yoda advises, you don't have to try so hard. Decide what you want to do, rest when you feel the need,
and don't forget to congratulate yourself afterwards.
To read about trying not to see, and what that does to your vision,
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Enjoy the rest of this magical month of May.
I'll write again in a few weeks. Take care!