Mid-November 2018 Newsletter
Hello, and a magnificent nurturing Mid-November to you!
Self-Care: An Indulgence Or A Necessity?
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter.
Today's issue is about self-care, whether it's an indulgence or
In this accomplishment-oriented culture, where many of us think that the more we
do, the better of a person we are, taking time to nurture ourselves can be seen
as a frivolous luxury. There's work to be done! And as the holiday season approaches,
with its extra tasks of gift shopping and decorations and cooking and parties,
relaxing time to care for ourselves can fall off the list altogether. A client
recently told me ruefully "when things are bad for others they turn to me, and when
things are bad for me I turn inward". Many of my healer friends have this pattern too.
So how can we make sure we get the TLC and nurturing we crave, when everyone
around us seems to need it more than we do? One obvious way is to give it
to ourselves, even with little things. We don't need to book a massage, like the
lucky guy above. Maybe we can spend a lazy hour with a favorite book, or
make time for lunch with a dear friend who will listen to us without judgment.
Even taking a walk outdoors can lift our energy, as long as we let ourselves
focus on the scenery instead of mulling about our problems.
If you can't get away from your routine or take much of a break,
can you find time for an imagination break? In a quiet period
away from the family or co-workers, see if you can plan that next
vacation to a beautiful place, or your next act of self-pampering,
be it a massage or a delicious meal that someone else prepares for you.
Simply filling your mind with those pleasant images will make you feel
uplifted and cared-about. Then when your reality catches up with your
imagination, you'll get to enjoy that pampering a second time.
All of the spiritual teachers I've followed have emphasized the importance
of being present, not distracted with worries about the future (which
may never materialize), or regrets about the past which is gone. The
present is where the juice is, the fun. Enjoy the moment! One of my
teachers said recently "The past is behind me and the future doesn't
need me yet", which made so much sense! Being right here right now,
exercising all of our senses and capabilities, may be the ultimate
act of self-care.
Getting what you need to thrive and be at your best isn't indulgent, it's sensible
and healthy. Maybe you're tired of the hustle-bustle and want some quiet time
alone. Take it! Maybe you've had too much Alone Time lately and are craving some company.
You can strike up a conversation with a neighbor or attend a local event. Or if the
weather is better for staying inside, find a group on-line with your interests, or call
or message a friend. Visualize what you'd like to feel cared-for, then set about making
that happen. Like my dream teacher used to tell us, dream it, then do it. You're
During this holiday season, giving attention or time to someone can "fill their
well" even more than an expensive gift. You might consider giving in this way
to a lonely relative or neighbor, while giving yourself the gift of helping
someone in need -- not much feels better than this. Or give to yourself in ways
that don't cost anything but a little time. Take a walk and look at the decorative
lights in the neighborhood, or go to a holiday concert, to enjoy the people
as well as the music.
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Enjoy the second half of your November, as we move deeper into the holiday season.
I'll write again in a couple of weeks. Take care!