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Nancy L. Neff Coaching and Healing

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Mid-October 2018 Newsletter

Hello, and a magical over-the-top Mid-October to you!
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter. Today's issue is about being an introvert, and thriving in a noisy extroverted world. Enjoy!

Being an introvert
 man trapped inside a jar The definition of an introvert is someone who gains energy by being alone, and can get depleted by too much time in company. An extrovert, on the other hand, needs to be around other people to feel fully energized and alive. No one is totally an introvert or an extrovert all the time. Each of us is somewhere on the spectrum between the two extremes, and we can temporarily shift in one direction or the other with certain strong emotions or events. However, most of us do lean more toward introversion or extroversion.

The man trapped inside the jar, looking out at the world and everyone else, seems to be the way extroverted folks, with their mindset of "the more people, the better!", view introverts. I'm an introvert, and we like being alone! When I was younger, my favorite way to spend my free time was with a book. My extroverted mother often urged me to go socialize, which was the last thing I wanted to do. She actually told me, "Why don't you go out with those other students? You don't have to like them!".

 reaching out Introverts often get mis-labeled as anti-social, which is unfair. Just because we don't want to be with others as much or as often as an extrovert, doesn't mean we never want to be around people at all! I've also noticed I'm much more comfortable with one or two friends, having a conversation without a lot of interruptions, than in a crowd. This is true even when it's a crowd of people I know well and care about.

The image above reminds me of the "energy hands" work I've learned in my healing classes. We put our hands gently on another, say on their shoulders when they're seated in front of us. Then we let our energy hands sink down below the skin to the bone, seeing what we sense there. Our energy always precedes us, reaching out before our body's actions catch up. This makes me think of introverts, who are often more sensitive, getting overwhelmed by all the energy coming at them from others, when not everyone can feel this. No wonder we often prefer to be alone, or with a very small group.

 reaching out puzzle As an introvert, I've built up my small social circle one close friend at a time. And yet I still have to watch out for getting overwhelmed with people, even if being with each one separately would be wonderful. Recently I participated in a Mastermind coaching weekend with a handful of coaches I've trained with for years. We know each other well, and I feel safe and supported with them. Reviewing the weekend afterwards, I realized I spent every single meal, my only "free time", eating with the group! In retrospect, this was a bit too much for my solitary nature, and even though I didn't want to miss any golden moments of connection and learning, one or 2 meals alone to refill my personal batteries might have suited me better. Know thyself!
Whether you're an introvert or an extrovert, you're OK! Accept and appreciate your uniqueness, and see if you can understand those who are a bit different from you. If you're an introvert, you can still go to a party, and not stay too long. If you're an extrovert, see if you can spend an hour or 2 alone and not get restless. It's always good to stretch our limits, while still honoring our own special nature. We don't want to turn into someone else! Finally, appreciate your gifts as an introvert, that you may be able to listen more intently, or be aware of nuances others can miss. Introverts usually go deeper in conversation. I can't count the number of times someone has told me "I never thought of it that way!" about something that was obvious to me. Cherish your sensitivity as an introvert, and appreciate your more outgoing extroverted friends. It takes all kinds.

To read about how my introverted nature affected my eyesight, click here.

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