Mid-October 2019 Newsletter
Hello, and a more-than-enough Mid-October to you!
How are you fighting yourself?
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter.
Today's issue is about acting against what you say you want.
You may have a chubby friend who says "I really shouldn't be
eating this" as she reaches for a second slice of cake. Or perhaps
you know someone who over-spends, then hides the receipts from
a thrifty spouse. This kind of self-sabotaging behavior may be
recognizable in others, yet much easier to ignore or
justify in ourselves.
Better habits are built with intention, then one small different
action at a time. We can promise ourselves to exercise before work, then
hit the snooze button "just this once" to sleep late. Soon it becomes
a way of life to get up barely in time for work, and the exercise
routine remains wishful thinking. We are building a non-exercise
habit this way!
One common form of self-sabotage, shooting yourself in the foot, so to
speak, is to push too hard to make a change. Then we'll get injured
from over-doing it, or we'll rebel, feeling like a child
resisting a strict parent or teacher. "You can't tell me what to do!"
some part of us thinks. So we don't change.
What has worked better for me to adopt and maintain a new habit is to focus
on the goal I want to reach. I envision myself more fit and healthy, or more
adventurous and sociable (I have a tendency to be timid). Knowing my daily
push-ups, which aren't always fun, are bringing me closer to Fitter Nancy
motivates me more than yelling at myself for being lazy. The same is true about
going out of town to meet with a group of other coaches or healers. How will I
grow my skills if I never leave home? Yet I don't want
to travel every week.
An area I've definitely had to stretch into is sharing what I know with others, and
being comfortable in a group. I'd be very happy to read and learn alone all day.
There are so many topics which interest me, and I can research and chase references
for hours without feeling lonely. When I was younger, I believed the way to grow
and evolve myself was to study everything I could get my hands on, cramming for
some future Life Exam. I'm sorry to admit how long it took me to recognize the
importance of other people, both for challenging and growing my expertise, and
also just for the pleasure of the companionship.
By trying to do everything alone, I was limiting myself. Others may have the opposite
dynamic, always seeking help and being afraid to be independent. Is there an area where
you could challenge yourself just a bit, maybe spend more time outdoors, or do one thing
to completion instead of multi-tasking and rarely finishing anything? If you're honest,
you know your weak spots, which to me aren't "weak" so much as under-nourished, like a
seed that hasn't been watered. Stretch yourself just a bit, and
you might be delighted with the result.
To read about wanting to improve vision while not wanting to see,
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Enjoy the remainder of this glorious month of October.
I'll write again in a few weeks. Take care!