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Nancy L. Neff Coaching and Healing

LifeForce Abundance Coach
Vision and Energy Coach

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November 2018 Newsletter

Hello, and a nurturing November to you!
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter. Today's issue is about pushing your limits, gently. Enjoy!

Pushing your limits gently
 transforming can't to can If you've ever been on a sports team with a demanding coach, or had a bossy teacher or a parent who was always pushing you, you know the feeling of wanting to rebel, even if what that authority is requiring of you would help you improve. I've met people who were on sports teams in school, then never did anything athletic after they graduated, saying the pushy coach ruined it for them. To me this is sad. How do we motivate ourselves to keep going, without treating ourselves like lazy slackers?

For much of my own life I was pushed, especially with household chores as a child, and academically. Perfect was barely good enough! Then I took on the role of taskmaster, driving myself relentlessly. I gained some satisfaction from my accomplishments, but I wasn't having much fun. If I wasn't producing, I felt like I was wasting time. It took a while for me to change my approach, setting small reasonable goals I could reach, and aiming for things I wanted myself, not what someone else wanted for me.

 quote about starting something big Looking back at when I was "driving and striving", a perfectionist approach which would burn up anyone's circuits, I realize now one big mistake I made was taking on too much at once. If my task list is too long and I don't get it all done, I'm not a failure, I just have an impossible assignment! Now I start each day with a list of 2 or 3 main things I'd like to accomplish, or make significant progress with. There are usually new things which arise I didn't plan for, so I leave some room in my schedule for those. These could range from a computer problem to my partner or a friend needing some of my time, and I want to be available to the people who are most important to me. Sometimes I surprise myself and have a little extra time after my tasks are done, and I can go for a walk or do something else enjoyable. I don't have to start on tomorrow's list until tomorrow.

You may have seen me write before about baby steps, that doing even a tiny bit is better than doing nothing at all. That demanding coach wouldn't have been happy with you only doing 5 push-ups when he wanted 20, but you can be happy with that, if it's all you have in you today. That's 5 more than a lot of folks did! If a big task seems overwhelming to me, so I procrastinate about starting it, one "trick" which helps me is just this. I break it down into more manageable pieces. Then instead of getting discouraged because I didn't write an entire newsletter in a single day, I'm pleased that I chose a theme and made a rough outline of what I wanted to say. That mountain before me doesn't look so huge now.

 baby walking Remember what you've succeeded at in the past, and that it's OK to be a beginner and make mistakes when you start something new. Adults, especially those who are competent at many things, can get tripped up when faced with a challenge which is radically different than their experience, and can be discouraged at being (and being seen as) a "beginner". There is no shame in being a newbie! Let your inner child out, who loves to learn and grow and play.
To expand your limits in any area, it helps to see it as a game, the child's point of view. Nothing is really a mistake. If it doesn't work, just try something else! I think we're here to learn and grow and connect with others, yes, and also to enjoy ourselves. So as you expand your limits and become even more of who you're meant to be, don't forget to have fun while you're doing that.

To read about how I pushed my visual limits to be comfortable driving in fog, click here.

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