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Nancy L. Neff Coaching and Healing

LifeForce Abundance Coach
Vision and Energy Coach

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October 2022 Newsletter

Hello, and an outstanding October to you!
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter. Today's issue is about appreciating the process. Enjoy!

Are you enjoying the process?
 man scrambling on a hamster wheel If we have a goal we're hoping to reach, be it an educational or a career or a personal one, it's human nature to be focused on "getting there". We can criticize ourselves for natural mistakes as we're learning, think we're proceeding way too slowly, or ignore small intermediate successes along the way since we're not at the finish line yet. This can take all the joy out of climbing the ladder toward whatever peak we're trying to reach.

When I started the process of improving my vision over 20 years ago, I wanted to get out of my strong hard contact lenses immediately and see well enough to function.That attitude quickly led to frustration, and to feeling like there was something wrong with me. I could usually learn new things rapidly, so why was this taking me so long? I was being what Aldous Huxley called a "greedy end-gainer" in his classic book The Art Of Seeing, obsessively and only fixated on my end goal of clear sight.

 child playing in sandbox The child playing in the sandbox may have a goal of building a little sand castle, or digging a tunnel, but he's not rushing to get there, he's taking his time and enjoying himself. This attitude is admirable, and I could use more of it myself as I approach my own tasks and projects. I'm thinking now of a tot playing with blocks, building a small tower with them, then knocking it down and bursting into joyous laughter! He's not upset, he's delighted. The goal is not to accomplish, it's to have fun. What a concept!

When I first tried to get control of my personal schedule, I wanted to make sure I made room for my exercise and self-care and connecting with friends, as well as my work responsibilities, which always seemed to have a higher priority. I made a daily to-do list which included "tasks" like writing to a friend or even spending at least a half-hour reading a literary magazine, but this soon felt too regimented. I was not enjoying the process, plus I felt guilty if I didn't complete every item on my list every day.

 ladder reaching to the sky OK, since this wasn't working (I was getting a lot done but not feeling satisfied), I took a step back for another look. What was my intention here? I wanted to get my "have-to's" and my "want-to's" completed each day, and not put myself under undue stress in the process. Clearly my to-do list couldn't be too long, or I'd have to rush to complete it, and maybe still leave some things undone. I decided to focus on doing less, but doing it more fully and completely, not just getting through it to cross it off the list.

About the topic of vision improvement, I've moved away from doing a required number of practices regularly to staying aware of my vision in an ongoing manner. I check in with my visual system periodically to see whether I'm staying relaxed and curious. I want to be comfortable in my body and mind, and to enjoy myself, whether I'm going for a walk, working on the bills, or exercising. If there's something you're not enjoying as much as you could, see if you can find out why you're doing it in the first place, and whether you still want to spend your energy that way. Life is meant to be pleasurable, not an ordeal. Do your best to find the enjoyment, even the fun.

To read more about enjoying the process of improving vision, click here.

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