Mid-March 2020 Newsletter
Hello, and a magical Mid-March to you!
Finding the good in a bad situation
Welcome, or welcome back, to my newsletter.
Today's issue is about looking for the good.
If you've recently suffered a personal tragedy or loss, it's not very
helpful when friends say "Everything happens for a reason". You want
comfort and sympathy, not platitudes! It's also not useful for some
knowledgeable friend to start spewing information about someone else he knows
who went through your problem. He might mention nutrition or grief counseling
or other therapies which helped his friend, but you're "in it" and just not ready to listen
about any possible paths forward yet.
This information-focused friend might become a resource for you later, after you're
past the initial shock of having to deal with what's in front of you now. First
you want to concentrate on getting yourself peaceful and calm, so you can think straight
and make good decisions about your next steps. It's normal to be scared, or angry, or to
feel defeated by Life, when you receive unexpected bad news. Pretending you're "fine"
when you're not isn't honest, and will prevent you from getting the support you need.
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique, or "tapping") modality,
which I use with myself and with clients, includes saying "Even though I have this problem,
I love and accept myself" or "I accept my feelings". Again, it's only after you
fully acknowledge that you have a problem to deal with, as unpleasant as that admission
may be, that you'll be able to begin moving forward. If you have a friend or relative who is in
denial about her weight or financial or addiction problem, you can clearly see how
not admitting she has a problem is keeping her stuck right where she is.
After you ruefully admit that yes, you do have this mess in front of you, then what? Perhaps you're
now remembering a past problem you overcame, and that approach you took then might
help you now with this very different challenge. Maybe you swallowed your pride and
reached out for help or advice. Then you in turn ended up helping your helper with something.
You do have strengths and abilities after all, and few situations are truly hopeless. Things are
already looking up!
Once you've honored the grief or shock or hurt about your problem,
you can start reaching for something which feels more positive. Some coping strategies may
be coming to mind, and avenues to explore. If you've faced something similar in the past, not
only might you have learned something which would be useful now, you may have knowledge others need.
A support group focused on this problem could give you much-needed solace, you'd feel less
alone, and you could help others with what you know.
Many of my teachers over the years have talked about gratitude. You may have heard "If you only say one prayer,
let it be "Thank you!". Most of what happens to us in Life teaches us something, so we're better able
to go forward and deal effectively with our next challenge -- this is how we grow. Many folks say an
earlier experience, which seemed like a horrible problem at first, turned out to be the best thing that ever
happened to them. This is because of what they learned (often about themselves), and the bonds they formed with others.
No circumstance is completely bleak and hopeless. See if you can see the bright side, and be thankful for that.
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Enjoy the remainder of this mind-expanding month of March.
I'll write again in a few weeks. Take care!